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Ten short, research-grounded conversations. Open any one and read what it is and exactly how to do it, by yourself, with no partner and no account needed. When you’re ready, you can do it together live.

All 10 routes.

The ten routes

Route 1 · Keeping steady

Stress-Reducing Conversation

15-minute allied listening map for outside stressors

Best for: Outside stress is spilling into connection.

Sourced: S2

Route 2 · Not feeling heard

Active Listening

15-minute full-attention hearing map

Best for: Someone says they do not feel heard.

Sourced: S3, S4

Route 3 · Not feeling heard

Reflective Dialogue

15-minute accuracy-before-response loop

Best for: You keep misunderstanding each other's meaning.

Sourced: S4

Route 4 · After a fight

I-Statements and Soft Start-Up

15-minute complain-without-blame map

Best for: You need to raise a concern without blame.

Sourced: S5, S6

Route 5 · Feeling distant

Open-Ended Questions

15-minute curiosity and inner-world map

Best for: You want curiosity, intimacy, or deeper understanding.

Sourced: S13, S14

Route 6 · After a fight

Time-Out Strategy

15-minute rehearsal map for flooding and self-soothing

Best for: Flooding or shutdown appears during conflict; rehearse before conflict.

Sourced: S7, S8

Route 7 · Feeling distant

Love Maps

15-minute inner-world update map

Best for: You want to update each other's inner world.

Sourced: S9

Route 8 · Keeping steady

Regular Check-Ins

15-minute compressed State of the Union map

Best for: You need a weekly relationship maintenance meeting.

Sourced: S12

Route 9 · After a fight

Emotion Validation

15-minute feelings-before-facts map

Best for: The conflict is stuck on feelings not being acknowledged.

Sourced: S11

Route 10 · Feeling distant

Turning Toward

15-minute bids-for-connection practice map

Best for: Small bids for connection are being missed.

Sourced: S10

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